This is a bit embarrassing…

This is a bit embarrassing, but I’m going to share it anyway.

I bought a new pair of shoes about a month ago. I was excited when I ordered them and I was excited when they arrived at my doorstep, but they’re still sitting in the box.

This isn’t the first time this has happened.

I have other clothes, watches and things I’ve purchased that just sit with their tags on them waiting for me to enjoy them.

The truth is, I’m not in love with them. But I feel like maybe I could begin to like them over time so I keep them.

That rarely happens.

What does happen is the time for me to return the item expires and it becomes mine for keeps.

I don’t enjoy it, I don’t return it, I just have it… maybe in the back of a closet.

Why in the heck would I do this?

Gremlins. I blame it on the gremlins.

Some of the gremlins that live in my mind go by the names of perfectionism, guilt and punishment.

Here’s how this plays out:

When I purchase something that isn’t ideal or perfect, I feel guilty about making a mistake (and not being perfect), so I then punish myself by forcing myself to live with my mistake.

Granted, I don’t knowingly go through this thought process, but subconsciously that’s what’s happening.

That’s how gremlins work. They sneak in at night and you don’t even realize they’re there.

Do you have gremlins that subconsciously convince you to do really crazy things (like keep things you don’t love)?

If you have any embarrassing habits or irrational behavioral patterns, check them out.

Ignoring or hiding your unhealthy habits just lets them thrive and grow. Calling them out for what they are helps you choose differently.

Because I decided to face my irrational fears and figure out what was really going on with the box of shoes in my closet, those bad boys are now boxed up and ready to be taken to the post office, just a few days shy of the deadline for a refund.

Victory!

Of course, I realize the fight probably isn’t over. Gremlins don’t give up that easily. But now that I know what’s going on, I’m more likely to catch it next time.

As old habits sneak back in (which they tend to do), just keep repeating the process until you’ve kicked them to the curb for good.

Have a great week!

With love,
Heather

1 Comment

  1. Sol Ballard on July 29, 2015 at 6:14 pm

    Yikes! I suffer from perfectionism as well. Not cool. love the advice on calling them for what they are. Super helpful!

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